LA POLY SPEED DATING FAQs
More Info About Evening Events to Safely Explore Polyamory
WHAT EXACTLY IS SPEED DATING?
A formalized, organized matchmaking process, speed dating is a modern answer to an ancient problem: finding good mates. Advance registration helps the organizer streamline the process in terms of both safety and efficiency, then, come event day, singles armed with name tags rotate to meet each other over a series of short "dates," typically lasting no more than about 10 minutes.
At the end of each date, the organizer rings a bell (so to speak) signaling singles to move on to the next potential mate. At the end of the whole event, singles give the organizer their unique lists of whom they want to have their contact information. If there's a match, the organizer gives both parties each other's contact information.
Speed dating help eligible singles meet large numbers of new potential partners in a very short period of time. Poly Speed Dating helps eligible humans—singles, couples, throuples, all of 'em—meet large numbers of new, like-minded potential partners in a very short period of time. So, of course your next question is...
WHY IS POLY SPEED DATING NECESSARY? IT SOUNDS EXACTLY LIKE REGULAR SPEED DATING.
Much like Rabbi Yaacov Deyo's desire for a more effective, exciting way to connect Orthodox Jews with other eligible Orthodox Jews, we in the SoCal Polyamorous Community longed for a better way to find other awesome poly and polycurious folk in person. In person, but without five shots of liquid courage and music so loud you spend the entire next day hearing EDM bells ring.
When you arrive at Given Consent Poly Speed Dating events, so much of that initial conversation is already taken care of: you know—no more crossing your fingers and hoping—that everyone you meet is on the same page with you regarding the most fundamental aspects of polyamory. You can spend those few precious minutes focusing on your chemistry, flapping belly butterflies, and joy.
WHAT EXACTLY IS POLYAMORY?
Though the term was coined as recently as the 90s, we humble humans have been practicing some form of polyamory as long as we've been humans. Polyamory is so many things:
The practice of or desire for intimate relationships with more than one partner—and, perhaps most importantly, with every partner's informed consent
Ethical (and responsible) non-monogamy (ENM)
Consensual non-monogamy (CNM)
Biologically and anthropologically defensible
Those who identify as polyamorous believe in building open relationships that consciously manage jealousy. They also believe that sexual and relational exclusivity are unnecessary for (and can even prevent) deep, committed, long-term, loving relationships.
HOW WILL I BE MATCHED?