LA POLY SPEED DATING FAQs

More Info About Evening Events to Safely Explore Polyamory

WHAT EXACTLY IS SPEED DATING?
A formalized, organized matchmaking process, speed dating is a modern answer to an ancient problem: finding good mates. Advance registration helps the organizer streamline the process in terms of both safety and efficiency, then, come event day, singles armed with name tags rotate to meet each other over a series of short "dates," typically lasting no more than about 10 minutes.
At the end of each date, the organizer rings a bell (so to speak) signaling singles to move on to the next potential mate. At the end of the whole event, singles give the organizer their unique lists of whom they want to have their contact information. If there's a match, the organizer gives both parties each other's contact information.
Speed dating help eligible singles meet large numbers of new potential partners in a very short period of time. Poly Speed Dating helps eligible humans—singles, couples, throuples, all of 'em—meet large numbers of new, like-minded potential partners in a very short period of time. So, of course your next question is...
 
WHY IS POLY SPEED DATING NECESSARY? IT SOUNDS EXACTLY LIKE REGULAR SPEED DATING.

Much like Rabbi Yaacov Deyo's desire for a more effective, exciting way to connect Orthodox Jews with other eligible Orthodox Jews, we in the SoCal Polyamorous Community longed for a better way to find other awesome poly and polycurious folk in person. In person, but without five shots of liquid courage and music so loud you spend the entire next day hearing EDM bells ring.

 

When you arrive at Given Consent Poly Speed Dating events, so much of that initial conversation is already taken care of: you know—no more crossing your fingers and hoping—that everyone you meet is on the same page with you regarding the most fundamental aspects of polyamory. You can spend those few precious minutes focusing on your chemistry, flapping belly butterflies, and joy.

 
WHAT EXACTLY IS POLYAMORY?

Though the term was coined as recently as the 90s, we humble humans have been practicing some form of polyamory as long as we've been humans. Polyamory is so many things:

  • The practice of or desire for intimate relationships with more than one partner—and, perhaps most importantly, with every partner's informed consent

  • Ethical (and responsible) non-monogamy (ENM)

  • Consensual non-monogamy (CNM)

  • Biologically and anthropologically defensible

Those who identify as polyamorous believe in building open relationships that consciously manage jealousy. They also believe that sexual and relational exclusivity are unnecessary for (and can even prevent) deep, committed, long-term, loving relationships.

HOW WILL I BE MATCHED?

Given Consent matches participants based on gender identity, sexual orientation (or attraction), and dating style (solo vs. couple vs. polycule). This creates a unique space to explore opening up your relationship, exploring bisexuality, or dating as a couple (or more).
When you purchase your ticket, you'll answer a few personal questions, including what kind of people you're interested in meeting. We also encourage you to note your interests in BDSM, kink, nudism, sacred sex, tantra, etc. when you sign up. We use this data to make the best possible matches for the night.
You can date with your partner(s) or fly solo, but regardless you'll have the opportunity to meet eight (8) potential partners who align with your provided interests and preferences. Make sure to bring your smartphone so you can access the customized seating chart and spend eight (8) minutes with each new potential partner.
WHO ELSE WILL BE THERE?
All Given Consent events, including Poly Speed Dating, are open to all consenting humans of any ethnicity, gender identity, sexual orientation, age, body shapes, eye color, etc. We thrive on diversity and always love and welcome newcomers!
 
WHAT'S A TYPICAL AGENDA FOR POLY SPEED DATING?
Let's say you sign up for Poly Speed Dating that begins at 7:00 PM. Depending on when you arrive, you'll spend the first 30 minutes or so checking in to the event and mingling with other participants. For the sake of getting everyone checked in in time, all participants (meaning both/all parties of a couple/polycule) must arrive by 7:45 PM sharp.
At 8:00 PM, Jamie and her team will give opening announcements, instructions, introductions, etc. for about 15 minutes, as well as deliver the carefully crafted seating chart. Then speed dating glory and madness commence and last for 60–90 minutes, making your last round's ending time about 9:30 PM, and by 10:00 PM we kick everyone out.
SOMETHING INCREDIBLY IMPORTANT CAME UP AND I NEED TO CANCEL. DO I LOSE MY TICKET DEPOSIT?
Not even a little bit. We're proud to offer a 100% refund up to 24 hours before the event.
IT'S MY FIRST TIME AND I'M NERVOUS. ANY TIPS?
Remember how exciting it was to open presents when you were little? You didn't know what was in there, and you didn't care. Meeting new people, and definitely new potential partners, is the adult's opening presents. At Given Consent events, you are safe, you are loved, you are seen, you are heard. Come into the experience with curiosity, openness (exactly like opening presents!), and a willingness to learn about others and yourself.
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